The recent incidents in Delhi must have triggered a revolution in our society but is that needed or we need to revolutionize the way we think. Mere strikes or demolishing public property will not get us the result rather it will put the burden on us. What we need is to change the way we think, change the way we perceive. I am not saying that all that we decide and do is wrong but what we must do is contemplate before we do after we have decided. Decisions may go wrong but the actions based on those decisions can be corrected. So why not start correcting those actions from home itself. Why not teach our children that women are the source of life, no matter what levels of successful scientific research we might reach a male can never bear a child. It is only the women who have this special gift from God. We pray with bowed head to Durga and Kali to give us the strength and success in life and equally shamelessly abuse the women in our homes. So what are we doing?
Dowry is a menace! I have been hearing this since I was a kid. So what, there are still many so called educated families who still want to sell their son for a hefty amount. In fact there is a different price tag for a Doctor, Engineer and nowadays a new profession is included - Software engineer!
Is dowry abolished yet? No. I have seen and talked with people who hold some positions of respect in our pseudo society saying that it is okay to ask/demand dowry. In fact I have seen some of my colleagues shamelessly display the dowry items they demanded from the brides parents. I don't blame the parents for putting their son for sale because they themselves have been nurtured and raised with the idea that women are meant for use and only for making others happy. That the men worship her inside the temples only to molest her outside. Does it mean that this chauvinist society begs for forgiveness from the mother/sister/daughter/wife in the temple so that he can abuse her later. Isn't it like getting an anticipatory bail before committing a crime.
It is time we have to initiate the change, and because the men are always busy I request the mothers to take an additional task on them to cure the society from this perverted sick mentality which treats women as nothing more than mere objects of desire.
I have this letter from a mother to her teenager son wherein she just advises him just before he chooses his life journey.
To be ‘loving’ is to be ‘loveable’ – it is possible to be both strong and tender at the same time.
- Your masculine energy has been given to you to protect others and support them – don’t ever be a bully, but do defend yourself.
- Play sport, be fit, eat well and live a wholesome life – you don’t yet know but you have only been given ‘one’ body – don’t abuse it, you don’t get to trade it in when you wear it out.
- You set the tone in intimate relationships. Support and nurture the feminine energy around you. Like Yin and Yang, relationships need the strength of the masculine and the softness of the feminine.
- Allow yourself to trust in all relationships – don’t fear being hurt or hold yourself back because of this fear. Fully express yourself; be the man you know yourself to be, and if it does not work out it's okay.... it is better to be yourself and be loved for that, than hide in a relationship and ignore your true self.
- Don’t fear being alone. 'Like' yourself, know in your heart you are a good man – people are attracted to those who have self-belief. See the light side of everything – don’t take yourself too seriously. Life is a long, hard road if you are not having fun along the way. Set goals and celebrate your successes.
- Find what you have been put on the planet to do, how you can make a difference to others – Ask your self daily "how will I leave the planet a better place than when I arrived?"
- Treat every woman kindly – and treat her equally. Women can do everything you can do – they just might do it differently.
Simply remember that life is a journey – every day counts and...be grateful for what you have.
“...You have to fight through some bad days to earn the best days of your life.”BLINK! THINK! DECIDE!
