Cafe Bulletin

WHAT DOES IT FEEL TO BE A HOUSE WIFE?

We all have often heard the term ‘house wife’- what does it mean in its truest form? Who has coined the term ‘house wife’? –
- does the term- house wife - say that the husband has the right to have another wife who is not a house wife, does it allow the husband to look for another wife to look after his desires and not only house. Does it allow a husband to have a girlfriend outside and not only a wife in the house? Does the term ‘house wife’ mean that the house wife is a legally enforced being on the husband by the society and not by choice, of either the husband or the wife.

Is a bride ever allowed to choose her groom? If there can be a house wife then why not a house husband- with similar meanings as for the house wife.

Can we men allow our wife’s the privilege of having another husband who is not a house husband? For how long are we going to exploit the fairer sex – at this I differ – how can a female be a fairer sex when she is the strongest. Only a woman can bear a child only a woman can give, she gives her body to her husband, she gives love to her children, care and concern for everybody around, she never asks nor takes. Only the strong can give. So if a woman always gives how does she become the fairer sex? In comparison with them we men are the weakest we need our lady by our side when we are scared we men want to hide in our lady’s arms when we want some peace. Has anybody ever heard of any woman not forgiving her man for cheating her, abusing her, and the worst; taking her for granted. Are women really difficult to understand? Or we simply do not want to understand just because she belongs to the fairer sex. Even today on this day and age of advanced technology and science we still have a different opinion on women. We men still find it difficult to accept the fact that women are at par with us and most of the time even does extremely well than us. Is it our insecurity or chauvinism that we still expect the wife to cook food, wash our clothes, and then please us in the bed? Can we ever think beyond all this? We always want from the wife. What have we given to her? We have been raised with the thought that we are superior to women, even the scriptures say that, the manusmriti too says that women are the cause of all the problems. Is this the reason that we consider women to be mere object of desire that we say we must protect her? In fact we men are so insecure that even when we are scared frightened we want our girl to be on our side (read bed). So how does the woman get the title of being the fairer sex, she always has given and still gives without a word of remorse. She gives all that she has and what does she get or expect in turn – but on the other she receives more torture, more abuse. The story of a woman is the same every where rural or urban it’s the same every where. Most surprisingly even the American constitution starts with ‘ All men are equal’ and NOT ‘All men and women are equal’ The woman labourer works all day to earn a meagre amount which she uses to buy food for the family and the man uses his money to buy some alcohol, his reason - he works soo hard!!!!!. Similarly the working woman of 21st century still has to worry about cooking food at home, washing clothes children’s education and so on. While the man would come home, wash, ask for tea, dinner and then expect her to satisfy him in bed – because he had a tough day in office. WHAT ABOUT THE LADY – DID SHE NOT HAVE A TOUGH DAY IN OFFICE? DID SHE NOT GO TO WORK? This itself proves that we men are the most insecure and to make us feel stronger we exploit and abuse the woman in our house. And hence we call her a HOUSE WIFE. Because we are much confident that she will never raise a word but accept every thing as fate. A FATE THAT WAS DESIGNED BY HER PREDECESSORS AND NOT BY HER EXISTENCE. No body is concerned about her feelings about her ideas. She has been nurtured as a commodity meant to be used. The ancient tradition of Devdasi’s, though now abolished, proves that. But still she is a Dasi and not Basi. Such that since her birth the parents start raising her as ‘Paraya Dhan’... – one that belongs to other and has to be given away some day to the rightful owner – decided by her parents. In short she is raised as a liability. The woman has always been treated as a liability, firstly by her parents then her husband. The parents decide for her then the husband decides and then the children decide. WHAT ABOUT THE WOMAN DOES SHE HAVE A MIND OF HER OWN? OR WE MEN DO NOT WANT TO ACCEPT THAT?

Consider this – the husband goes off to work – has a tough day in office – returns home tired. The wife is all day home – made breakfast – washed clothes – cooked lunch – cleaned the house - the wife is tired.
The husband enters throws his bag on the couch and himself too in it – orders for tea – removes shoes and throws them around house – the wife serves tea smiles and places the shoes on the shoe rack and sits next to the husband – the husband ignores her – gets up goes for a shower – returns – reads the news paper - eats dinner goes to bed – the wife cleans up the utensils and enters the bedroom – the husband starts his action – the wife says she does not want to but just wants to cuddle up – the husband ignores and forces himself - the wife gives in - WHY? - does she too want it or it is the best way to keep away a beast. Or only to make her husband happy BECAUSE he had a tough day in office. WHAT about her day? Did she not work? If she did not work then who cooked food, washed clothes, cleaned house??????????? When will the husband realise that he has married a human being with a soul and not a machine. This may not be the case for many but few. But true, circumstances may differ but a woman is still considered an object of lust.

If the man and wife both are working even then it is the wife who is concerned with housekeeping, cooking food washing clothes etc and then making him happy whether she wants or not. Does a man ever realise that she has faked orgasm. Or is it just penetration that is all that matters to him. If that is the cases then why marry, there are many available on hire. Why spoil a life? Is it to have the feeling of ownership; men always love to own. - hence are always losers in love......