Are You One of these?

Distant. Indifferent. Impassive. Disinterested. Stoical. Blasé.
Not showing any extreme or passionate emotion. Love to joke. Don’t take anything seriously and for that reason usually end up hurting the feelings of others around.


The focus is on the "self,” even if other people's emotional needs are acknowledged. Have trouble starting and following intimate conversations. Feel pressured and get angry once asked to reveal true feelings on the subject. Can stay out of touch with friends and loved ones for a long time and then suddenly resurface without a very clear explanation of what happened. Etc, etc, etc...

Then its time for some introspection.. Just DO IT? as i did it..

Have Faith! Don't Lose it...Don't Waste it...It can indeed move mountains! TRY IT

Emotionally Independent or Emotionally Detached?

I am a living being, an amalgamation of various chemicals, atoms and molecules.
I can feel heat as much I can feel cold.
My heart fills with love as much with sorrow.
My eyes shed tears for reasons not known yet. In sorrow I cry, in happiness I cry.
When angry, I shout or just shut up; in happiness I smile or laugh out loud.
I am just a structure of 206 bones wrapped in flesh covered with miles and miles of veins and filled with litres of blood.
When I fall I am hurt I feel pain and I bleed. When I fall I am hurt I feel pain and I don’t bleed. While I am alone, I need company to speak and share.
I also feel sad when the love of my life goes away; never to come back.
I also feel frustrated when things do not happen as I want.
I also feel angry when a person not known to me abuses me.

WHY? What am I?

Is this what is known to be a human being?
How do I tell the difference?
The heart in me pumps blood to the veins so that they can function. The eyes see and act as the body’s camera to transmit live images to the brain. It is the brain that analyses the image and further instructs what has to be done. The body is all about mechanised functions programmed to operate on its own until stopped by an outside agent/force. It is a robot of sorts. But still it is called a human body and not a machine. Surprising! Isn’t it? The only thing that can differentiate between me and a robot is feelings. I am not a cyborg! Devoid of pain and fear.

I feel the pain & am hurt. And walk with a heavy heart. Likewise, when I see those eyes, a smile appears on my lips and my heart wants to sing. I need a hug to re-assure myself that I am not alone. Why is the heart involved? When, its primary function is only to pump blood. Like a piston in a vehicle.

What is the difference between me and a robot? It is feelings.

A robot is programmed to function as decided by its owner. I am conditioned by my people. A robot cannot think whereas I do the thinking. But like a robot I too at times; if not always forget to follow my thoughts and act according to those of others. Does it not mean that I too have become a robot? At least the robot doesn’t have a conflict of thoughts. It just performs as programmed whereas I act when I do not follow my thoughts; but those of others. Then the feelings are missing and I too become a robot.
I stop on my own either due to my mental conditioning or the society for the fear of spoiling my image. That helps neither towards the work done nor towards the self. It’s just wasting time to portray a sober good image that which is demanded by the society and not by me. I just want to be me! Free!!!

So what am I? Who am I? Am I a mechanised robot or a living robot?

Now that I know what I am what if I remove the “I” from me? What do I see? Who is the one standing on the other side of the mirror? Is that me or just an amalgamation of chemicals, atoms and molecules.
Why not remove the “I” in me that I which is my ego and I too shall become one with the surroundings. I too will gel with the fragrance emanating from the lovely rose, I too will be able to fly with the birds and not remain caged in the prison of my inherited thoughts.

Literately Uneducated!!! Or illeterately educated!!!

For generations we have heard learnt and been taught that education makes one civilized. Education is the door to success. That education is the only hope. But are we really educated or we still dwell in forests. At least in the jungle the lion is the king because of its strength and endurance. In politics the cunning and shrewdest mind gets to form a government. In the corporate world it is the ignorance and lackadaisical attitude that judges ones capability. Hence there is no doubt that the political and the business minded people walk hand in hand. Thus it is aptly said that in the business of politics there are no permanent enemies or friends. Anybody who is worth to be used as a means to achieve ones personal aspirations is welcome.

So has our education taught us to sleep over issues that need to be raised and brought out in the open? Why is it that only after retirement from a job one dedicates time for social causes? Is it a way to undo the wrong doings while in power? Has our education enabled us to close our eyes while unethical activities happen around us just because we are in need of the job, the recognition and the fame?
But I feel education teaches us to be in the system to beat the system, if, a wrong system. But who decides whether a system is right or wrong. For that I say ……….B L I N K!

Education teaches one to read and write; but that is also termed as being literate. So then what exactly it means to be educated? A SOUND EDUCATION DOESN’T MAKE ONE LEARNED BUT ONLY OPENS DOORS; FOR IGNORANCE TO GO OUT AND WISDOM TO ENTER. IT GIVES ONE THE QUALITY OF BEING PRUDENT & SENSIBLE. Thus a person even with the ability to read and write can still be literally uneducated if they cannot develop the qualities of being prudent & sensible. Or they can be illiterately educated if they fail to involve wisdom in their thoughts and actions.

- Or, at times we openly expect the other to know. Isn’t that a very clever decision and an apt way to camouflage ones lack of knowledge and an easy way to shrug off responsibility? Isn’t that what we call to be ignorant?
- Or, hide ones inability to speak for their own right or to cover up one’s own fear of spoiling their good and sober image in society, thereby protect their practiced fancy?
- Or, to refuse to accept our lack of courage/ guts to walk up and face the demon called fear?
- Or, is it that our education prevents us from speaking the truth; rather accept and console ourselves saying that is being practical.

Do we identify all those?

Does education teach us to be egoistic snobs or it imbibes in us a sense of pride and thereby a set of ethical principles.

Does it teach us to think out of the box or be inside the box and think of the world outside and become skeptical about it?

Are we aware of our shortfalls?

Does education teach us to use and manipulate or does it teach us to stand up and speak?

Does education teach us to be ethical or practical, to honor a promise or to breach a promise?

Does it allow us to hide the facts or encourage us to reveal the truth and be honest? Or sweet mouth and conceal the facts?

Does it give us the courage to look into the eye and speak or it injects fear into our veins?

Education doesn’t teach us any of the above, instead opens the world around us. It gives us the eyes to see and the ability to think. It gives us the freedom of thought and actions. It makes us more humane. It teaches us our moral and social responsibilities. It gives us self-realization, self-respect and teaches us self-esteem. But then, if it does teach us all these then why are we still blinded by the society and the practical world? Like a herd of cattle why do we blindly follow it?

This society is more interested in fun and in deciding for others. They are the ones who use their limited knowledge or the lack of it; by pushing the other beyond the lines of thinking; for their own betterment and a never ending dose of free entertainment.

Why do we forget that it is we who make the society; the society doesn’t make us.
For how long do we wish to remain trammeled within the walls created by our own ignorance that we fail to notice; we have become mere prisoners under trail for freedom?

Has education really helped us in any way? Have we awakened or are we still sleeping? Are we free finally or is our freedom still a distant dream?

So dear friends let us all rise and confirm that we are indeed

literately educated and not

literately Uneducated!!! Or illiterately educated!!!

Be Aware! Beware!!
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